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I am so glad that you somehow found yourself here at Repack Your Backpack. I no longer blog here, but I hope you will visit my newest blog over at www.GinaParris.com There I share my thoughts and secrets about building our winning livelihoods around our LIVES.

See you there!

Gina

FINISH FINANCIALY STRONG - Starting Right Now

You know that there are less than 100 days left in 2009.
I want you to FINISH STRONG and LIVE YOUR PASSION.

Let's talk about your year- end breakthrough. I am
CONVINCED that your success in your life and livelihood
are determined by -

How CLEAR you are on what you do, followed by how
CLEARLY you communicate the value of that to your
prospects.

So, let me ask you, "What is it you REALLY DO?"

If you are an athlete, you are in the business of
ENTERTAINING your beloved FANS and giving them
something to cheer about.

If you are a retailer, you are in the business of making
PEOPLE FEEL GREAT about themselves, or helping them
accomplish something that matters to them.

If you are a service provider, you are in the business
of SOLVING PEOPLE'S PROBLEMS or PROVIDING
THEM SOME PLEASURE.

If you are a spouse or a parent, you are in the business
of BRINGING OUT GREATNESS in the ones entrusted to you!

Notice in each case, the more you are focused on meeting
the needs of others, the more valuable you become.
The more valuable you become, the more confident you
become. The more confident you become, the more you grow
in your ability to communicate you value!

I happen to be passionate about seeing people blast through
their doubts and fears to lay hold of their God-given potential
and purpose.

What is your passion? What is your business? How can you
connect the two?

There is power in answering those questions. Feel free to
reply to this email and share you answers with me. I WILL
HELP YOU HONOR YOUR PURPOSE.

Until next time, you KEEP PLAYING TO WIN, and I'll be right
here.

In your corner,

Gina

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Moving from Agony to Victory

Are you old enough to remember the opening footage to the
Wide World of Sports on ABC?

I don't even remember what
they showed as the announcer crooned "The thrill of victory..."

But I sure do remember the snow skiier's wipeout to the words
"...and the agony of defeat!"

How about you? Do you have your own moments of agony?
Of course! All winners do.

You probably know what it's like to put months and years of
effort into a shot at something -and then fail.

The disappointment can be crushing.

The closer the victory, the greater the agony.

The more public the disappointment, the greater the shame.

How do you turn it around?

Since the defeat was both mental and tactical, the solution
is too. Here are four steps that I guarantee can take you to
the other side.

1." Zoom Out"

First of all, step back!

Look at your life with a generous "wide angle" lens.
Create a timeline of your whole life - past, present and
future decades. List important events to come and see
that this event you just endured is only a tiny blip on
the Time Line of your success story.

"This too shall pass" and you can use it to make
yourself stronger.

Perspective is quite a healer of disappointment


2. "Zoom In"

Now take that camera with a close up lens, and "zoom in"
to your most inward, invisible core. See the person that
you are, completely separate from all the external things
that define you.

Remember, that YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE WHEN NO
ONE IS LOOKING.

See the qualities about you that are bigger than your
game. You have infinite Power and Love dwelling inside
of you. You are a million times bigger on the inside than
you are on the outside.

When you nurture the winner inside of yourself, than you
will prevail against the adversaries on the outside.

3. Get Going

Successful people know that the true success comes from
FAILING as quickly as possible, learning from the loss, and
quickly executing with the new wisdom.

The faster you get up and move forward, the faster your
shame becomes part of your glory. Somebody else
needs to see you prevail so they can do it too. Your
success is never just about you.

As you run your race, enjoy each step. There is only power
in the present. Enjoy your breath, the sounds, the sights, the
fragrances of life. Enjoy the people you share it all with.

4. Get Coaching

More than ever, you must invest in yourself.
In times when bad news abounds,
you can NOT reach your peak alone. Look at those who have
created the greatest victories around you. I guarantee they've
had at least one coach.

Whether your sport is athletic, financial or personal, you
need a peak performance coach of your own.

Align yourself with someone who will pull you higher,
bring out your best and hold you accountable to your
own dreams. Find someone with whom you can be completely
honest and vulnerable.

It matters not the caliber of disappointment. You WILL move
from The Agony of Defeat to The Thrill of Victory by quickly
and continually executing these four steps.

Until next time, Keep playing hard - and enjoy your game!

I'm in your corner,



Gina


P.S. - Many of the Built To Win Friends have asked me when I
would release Royalty Within Meditation on a CD instead of
just mp3.
Well, that day is now.

If you want the life changing truths about who you REALLY
ARE in Christ, and you want to renew your mind without
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Gina Parris is an internationally sought-after
peak performance speaker, coach, and author.
She is the founder of Built To Win Coaching,
Where she equips athletes and entrepreneurs
to skyrocket their authentic success
through mindset mastery and strategic action.

http://www.BuiltToWinCoaching.com
Abundant Life - expressed in your livelihood
(931) 461-7836
Built To Win Coaching

You're ALREADY Hypnotized

Brian is a professional athlete who made it all the way to the
top of his sport. However, when he got there, he struggled to perform.

Before his competitions, he got so nervous that finally he went
to see a hypnotist, who promised to change him with no effort on his
part.

"Did it work?" I asked.

"I don't know," he replied. "I still got really nervous - probably why I didn't get

put in the game."

What Brian came to realize is that HE WAS ALREADY HYPNOTIZED.

What he needed was someone (namely himself) to DE-HYPNOTIZE
him. What do I mean?

The fact is that all of us are hypnotized on one level or another. That is,we walk

around fulfilling our own B.S.

- belief systems.

When someone is hypnotized on stage and able to lift amazing amounts of weight,

or become incredibly weak, nothing changed about their inherent abilities. The only

thing that was temporarily suspended was their own beliefs and expectations

of outcome.

You ALWAYS ultimately perform according to your internal image
of yourself.

That's why everything that we do in our performance fields as mental coaches,

sports psychologists, or trainers is bent on enlarging your self-image.

Brian had experienced Performance Anxiety for so long that he

saw himself as "the guy who gets nervous." He had a conditioned response

of dreadful expectation, even though he loves his game.

In reality, the fact that Brian got nervous countless times in the past had NOTHING

to do with whether or not he would today.

At any moment he could shift his own self-image to that of a player who is calm

and confident and totally in his element around his sport.

When he made CONFIDENCE AND DESTINY his habit, everything changed.

He went longer and longer between "anxious moments" until he could be calm

under any pressure.

Plus, he learned to diffuse the anxiety when it did come up
by breathing, tapping, and shifting to gratitude.

Here's a step towards that for you:

1. Know that you formed this self image with no struggle on your part. You just

accepted certain ideas and they became conditioned.

2. As you learn to relax now, you can create a new mental movie of how you want

to perform under pressure.

3. Practice settling down, breathing deeply and just creating your own mental movie

every day for 15 minutes a day at least. Do this for 21 days.

Here's some tips for your mental movie:

a. See yourself as if you were watching on a theater screen and you were in the audience.

b. Then move to the character. Become that person and see everything from that perspective.

c. Always speak in line with your image. In other words, don't create this great movie and

then get all negative. If you do have conflicting emotions, than do our three steps that we

always talk about regarding negative emotions.

Acknowledge them, accept yourself anyway, and create an empowering choice.

Anxiety is no big deal! It DOESN'T MEAN ANYTHING, accept that you have some

habitual emotion that you are ready to shift.

You are in control.

You can do this!

Now, go play - first in your mind, than in your game. Failure is not an option.

"What if I lose?" I'll answer that next time.

Until then,

Keep playing to win and enjoy your game.

In your corner,

Goal Achievement - It all comes down to this...

I was thinking this week about this young guy named Kurt.

It was the wee hours in the morning when Kurt was carefully
placing canned goods on the grocery store shelves. His day
job didn't quite pay the bills, so he worked at the store at night.

As he worked, he thought about his dreams and his goals,
and once in awhile he shared them with his coworkers.

Finally one of them said, "Kurt, dude, it's time for you to get a new dream!"

Thankfully Kurt Warner didn't listen. Five years later he seemed to be an

"overnight wonder" when he was named Superbowl Champion and League

MVP as his St. Louis Rams defeated the Tennessee Titans.

Of course this season, 10 years later, he proved he is still a player.

The lesson? Never listen to people who are too small to dream
big themselves. All that matters is what YOU say and know
about yourself.

Here's what I know for sure...

EVERYBODY basically wants to know if they are "good enough" to
achieve their goals.

You may think you are the only one with certain questions.

The fact is, someone else is also asking...


"Am I worthy?"
"Can I do it?"
"What if I fail?"
"What if I get hurt?"

Is there a way to confidently answer all those questions?
Yes, I believe there is.

In decades of studying and working with winners, losers and
other kinds of players, I have found one underlying truth:

Your level of success is 100% related to the way you see
that person in the mirror.


All mental conditioning, sports psychology, self-help, and even
true ministry works to perfect this one thing-

Your Self Image

Your performance will never consistently outperform the
way you see yourself.

We have thought that self-image comes about as a result of
aptitude, but closer study reveals that aptitude is a result
of one's self image.

If you think you are made to be the league MVP, than you
will ultimately find a way to get there. If you doubt it at the
same time, than you may make poor decisions and get there
illegally. Eventually your position will correctly match your
internal image.

This is true whether you're talking about your weight, your
income, your relationships, or your sport. What you see on
the outside is a reflection of how you see yourself on the inside.

So, what is a person to do? Instead of fighting yourself, you
can grow into your vision. Here are some steps to make it
easier:

1. Create a crystal clear target. You want to know exactly
what you look like and feel like when you have achieved your desire.

Create a target that includes all of your senses, and as much
description as possible. Let it be something that on a scale of
1-10 gives you a 10 in pleasure and stretches you in believability.

In our SCORE guide, I ask you to write this target down. I call
it your vision.

2. Surround yourself with people who have done it -people who play
better than you.

It always amazes me how poor performers choose to feel better about

themselves by associating with people weaker than themselves.

Do what you can to spend time with and study from a distance,
people who have completely kicked butt in your field. Study
them so thoroughly that in your mind you could sit down and

have a conversation with them and actually learn something that
you didn't know before the daydream.

Is that possible? Of course. You become like the company you
keep. Or as I always say,

"You become what you behold."

3. Practice your own mental movie of your success story.

For at least 15 minutes a day, take some time to slow down,
breathe deeply, focusing only the present moment.

Then watch yourself as if you were in the audience and your
story was on the big screen. Watch every detail of your winning
performance. Perhaps it is winning an award. Perhaps it is
making the perfect presentation and closing a big sale. Perhaps
it is just enjoying every day life in the perfect state of health
and abundance.

Make one movie; and watch it again and again.

Then move from the audience to on the screen. See it from the
eyes of the performer.


4. Ask empowering questions.

When you get comfortable with your mind movie, ask yourself,
"How can this happen in the way that is best for every body involved?"

Or "What can I do today to move me closer to this vision?"

Or even,

"How did I find it so fun and easy to make this dream come true?"

You will find that when you ask the right questions, you will get the
right answers.

5. Practice Gratitude.

Finally remember this:

You probably are eager for the finished goal because of the feeling
you will have once you get there. Remarkably, you can choose to
enjoy that feeling right now. There is no reason to wait.

Anytime you feel anxious or doubtful about your journey, let that
be a trigger for you to get back to a place of gratitude.

Just start saying Thank You for all the great things you have right
now - Big Things and Little Things. There is no healthier emotion
than gratitude.

And now, I want to express my gratitude to YOU.

You are a reason that I get out of bed in the morning. I am so
excited for your success and your potential. Today is a new day,
and this is a new hour. Not one single limit is placed on you
by yesterday's experience.

If you have not downloaded your F R^ E E action guide to
guarantee your winning season, than do it now.

Then print it off and take a week to fill in the answers.
If you joined this list before we had the seven day
mini-course, than by all means, join again. You won't
get duplicate emails.

If you are in business or competing as an athlete
than click here:
http://tinyurl.com/athletesbusiness

If you are a market trader than use this action
guide right here:
http://tinyurl.com/SCOREtraders

Can you do the impossible? Sure - with enough
time, with enough preparation, and with crystal
clear confidence.

Until then, keep playing hard, enjoy your game
and strengthen the winner in you.


I'll be right here ...

In your corner,

PS - If you want to work on your own Self-Image and
uncover any blocks that are slowing you down, than
look into a strategy session with me. It will be the best
investment you can make in yourself, and you can
try it out at a rate that is much lower than my regular
fees. Here is a link to learn more:
http://www.builttowincoaching.com/promo.html

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If you would like to quit spinning your
wheels and finally experience true breakthrough
in your life and business, than please visit:
http://www.BuiltToWinCoaching.com for your
free MINDSET MASTERY MINI-COURSE.

Gina Parris is an internationally sought-after
peak performance speaker, coach, and author.
She is the founder of Built To Win Coaching,
Where she equips business owners and
solo-preneurs to skyrocket their authentic
success through mindset mastery and strategic action.

http://www.BuiltToWinCoaching.com
Abundant Life - expressed in your livelihood
(931) 461-7836

Another FREE audio for you - and a question...

What an awesome week of victories and defeats!
Football! Ultimate Fighting! Basketball playoffs!
I love it all - the fighting most of all - who knew? And who didn't love watching Georges St. Pierre beat the pants off of BJ Penn? I couldn't even find anyone to bet against me at the sports club.

But again, the real lessons were "Beneath the Surface,"
to quote the title of Micheal Phelp's first book.

Speaking of Micheal...What was he thinking?
Now the photos of him are plastered everywhere
as he is smoking pot from a bong (looking like quite
a pro at it) His fans were forgiving after his DUI,
but on this one, he lost a lot of them.

Love and respect your fans - when they're not around.

Why?

Because...

YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE - WHEN NO
ONE IS WATCHING!

And even if you're famous for what you do, people
want to believe in who you are.

The real hero of the week?

Captain Chesley "Sully" Sullenberger -

Oh, not just because of his miraculous crash landing
on the Hudson River a few weeks ago, where his
cool head saved at least a hundred and fifty lives.

No, that was too public.

His hero award today?

He gets the award because through the chaos of
the crash landing, he lost his library book in the
plane cockpit.

Because of this, when no one was looking, he called
the library to inform them of the lost book and ask
for a waiver of late fees.

Um, he really didn't have to do that, but he did
because it was the "right thing."

What was the book about?

Professional ethics.

He probably could have written the book.

What made him a hero when the pressure was on
to crash-splash land an airplane? His character.

Lots of "winners" have the talent to take them
where their character can't keep them.

Not you. You have both - talent and character.

Be who you want to be - when no one is looking.

God sees everything - and...

The Game Knows.

Here's an audio about the Five Steps that make
you a real winner.

I'm sharing with a crowd of firefighters and cops -
so it's a fairly intimate setting with some of my
favorite heroes.

You can download it here:
http://sohappygina.audioacrobat.com/download/FirehouseSCORE.mp3

Or you can just listen through your computer right here:
http://www.audioacrobat.com/play/WTjbX8hs

I'll see you again next week. I am thankful for all our
new readers. Let me know how I can serve and support
you.

Remember that you were made to win - so keep playing
hard, and enjoy your game!

In your corner,

PS - If you don't know how to keep your cool under
pressure - than learn the secrets in Flow On Demand-
The Athlete's Edge. The same techniques that work
for professional athletes under fire, will work for you
too - whatever your game. You can get it here:
http://www.builttowincoaching.com/athletes/

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Coming up:
I know a majority of my readers on this list are testosterone- driven men who
cannot for the life of them relate to the romance project I'm releasing in the
next two weeks.

However, if you are married, than you will be really happy if your wife gets
a hold of it, (although I'm sure she wants you all the time...)
so please find a way to share it with her, and her girlfriends.
I'll keep you posted.


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If you would like to quit spinning your
wheels and finally experience true breakthrough
in your life and business, than please visit:
http://www.BuiltToWinCoaching.com for your
free MINDSET MASTERY MINI-COURSE.

Gina Parris is an internationally sought-after
peak performance speaker, coach, and author.
She is the founder of Built To Win Coaching,
Where she equips business owners and
solo-preneurs to skyrocket their authentic
success through mindset mastery and strategic action.

http://www.BuiltToWinCoaching.com
Abundant Life - expressed in your livelihood
(931) 461-7836

The Greatest Secret in the World #2 - Make Love...

Of all the success books that I have on my shelves and that I have read over the last 20 years, nothing has impacted my life, who I am, and how I do business, like this chapter in this book. I will read just a small part of it. I hope you like it!

The Greatest Secret In The World #1 - Habits

In 1983, I studied this book by Og Mandino and it set the course of my life for success. It is my oldest and dearest "Success Book" (Besides the Bible) and the secrets revealed here will make your success inevitable!

How To Triple Your Income in Down Market

Karen sniffed as she pondered one of the questions. She felt
the tears rise up and finally she wept. There were so many people
whom she loved dearly; so many people who loved her back. But
they all had differing opinions about the areas that touched her
life - especially about finances.

Around some loved ones, she felt guilty for making money. Around
others she felt ashamed for not making more.

These feelings were subtle too -something she'd never really thought
about, but they had a direct affect on her results.

Can you relate?

Within a few months however, Karen was able to completely shift
the way she saw herself, her career and her contribution. Among
other results, she more than TRIPLED HER INCOME even though
she is a real estate agent in the so-called worst housing market
in decades.

Here's part of a letter she wrote me.

Imagine yourself writing a joyful letter in the months to come...

"Gina,

Wow, I just had my annual performance review with my Broker
today, going over last year's goals and achievements as well as
setting goals for 2009.

It was amazing to see everything in black and white:
I tripled the number of closings that I had in 2007, tripled
my sales volume and more than tripled my income this year! I also
added 50 people to my sphere of influence.

Considering the state of the economy and the media portrayal of
the housing market, this is truly astonishing.

You really helped me to clarify my "real values" in order to help me set
meaningful goals for myself. My outlook is so much more positive, and
I know at least three things that I didn't know before working with you:

1) It's not "what" I do that matters it's "why" I do it.
2) I truly can do anything I set my "heart" on. There are no physical
limitations, it's all energy!
3)"A rising tide lifts all boats".

Thank you for an amazing turn around in my career and personal life.
You are uniquely gifted to do what you do.

Sincerely,

Karen Tibbals
Century 21 Mid-State Realty, LLC "

Great job Karen!!

So today may you remember those same lessons can lift you up
as well!

-Find Your "WHY!"

-Remember it's all energy - there are no limits!

-Your success brings MORE success to everybody around you,
so go for it!

As you do, I'll be here - CHEERING YOU ON!

In your corner,

P.S. -
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You are worth it!

P.P.S.

I am creating a wonderful new product which is distinctly
FEMININE in its target. (Yes, it's all about S-E-X and

Romance) so please forward this letter to your girlfriends and

have them get on my list. You won't want to miss any of it.

Bless you!

GET MORE CLIENTS - Faster Than Ever

Note: I will be hosting a complimentary
telephone seminar on this topic: Here's the
details:
Date: Tuesday Dec 9
Time: 7 PM Central Time

(5 PM Pacific / 6 PM Mountain / 8 PM Eastern)

Here's the phone number:
1 (712) 451-6000 access code: 664899#

GET MORE CLIENTS - Faster than Ever

Have you ever looked at your schedule and thought,
"I really wish I had some more clients right now?"

Well, let me share with you one of my favorite ways
to pick up new high paying clients and to grow my
list of subscribers:

GO SERVE SOMEONE ELSE'S CLIENTS WHO
DON'T CURRENTLY HAVE ACCESS TO WHAT
YOU OFFER.

Connect with a friend who already serves your same
ideal client in a non-competing way, and offer to serve
those people as a gift from your friend. That's called
a Joint Venture.

Here's How I like to do it:

I put on some high value seminars such as my favorite-
"Repack Your Backpack -for a Business Breakthrough" or
or "The Ultimate Marketing Makeover to Get Clients Now"

I also have friends in different cities through different
circles who have relationships with my ideal clients.
Some of these friends are financial planners, some are
bankers, some are other small business owners.

What we do is create an event for their list. This event
is a generous gift from my Joint Venture partner, because
when I'm hired by bigger corporations for these talks
they are pretty pricey. It is a way for my venture partner
to show their clients that they care about their success.

Here's some steps to make it work:

-Venue: Hold it in as lovely a place as possible. Your
country club, city club, or if you or your partner has
your own beautiful office suite with conference
room, that 's good too.
Snacks?
Yes.

-Marketing: Invest in high quality direct response flyers,
invitations, and letters that you prepare for your partner.
You may want to put a price on the tickets, to show that
its a valuable gift from your partner. Also, create press
releases for them to give their newspaper.

-Title: Make sure that your event is about something that
matters to the audience - not just to you. Use all the rules
that apply to creating great headlines.

-Outcome: Plan your desired outcome first and design your
presentation around that. Aim for a special offer for the
audience that the every day person can't get from you. I.E:
"To thank so-and-so for inviting you here today, I am throwing
in all these valuable bonuses
for free." (and make it truly special - be authentic here.)

-Content: This goes back to the Title - make it truly valuable
information that they can use right away.

In the end, your J.V. partners may reactivate their best prospects
(past clients), and also create a way to stand out from their
competition, and you will grow your platform and probably
pick up new clients as well. Your relationship with those partners
gives you instant credibility.

Assignment: Create a list of people you know who could benefit
from you serving their community. Then start calling them up
saying, "How would you like to give something of great value to
your clients that costs you very little?" and go from there.

If you would like more lessons in how to get more clients
quickly, than make a note of our COMPLIMENTARY
tele-seminar:
The Ultimate Marketing Makeover to Get Clients Now

Date: Tuesday Dec 9
Time: 7 PM Central Time

(5 PM Pacific / 6 PM Mountain / 8 PM Eastern)

Here's the phone number:
1 (712) 451-6000 access code: 664899#

Looking forward to it,

Gina

P.S. If you are reading this, thinking you would
like to host a seminar for your clients, let me know.
We can probably work it out.

P.P.S. - What is your favorite way to get new
clients?

How to LOVE a job you HATE

How to LOVE a Task that You HATE

Successful people make a habit of doing those things
that unsuccessful people are unwilling to do.

Let's face it. If we are going to truly excel in our life and
business, than there are certain tasks that we simply
must do. Many of these tasks strike us as just plain
unpleasant, even painful.

Unfortunately, we are wired to avoid pain. This means
that unless we change our perspective on certain Peak
Performance behaviors, we will avoid them, and sabotage
our own success.

On the other hand, perhaps we will do our necessary
tasks, but complete them with clenched teeth, furrowed
brows and irritation coursing through our bodies. That
state is not very pleasant, and will seriously hurt our
productivity. What happens when we need to speak in
that mood? We say ugly, unproductive things!

What is the ideal solution? It's simple.

Learn to love the task that you hate.

Yes, you can. Remember, it is not the task that makes
your mood. It's what you tell yourself about that task.

Now, the first time I discovered this, I was in a moment
of motherhood- vexation. Since then, I've applied this strategy
to my business tasks with great success too.

Here's what happened...

I was in the mini-van driving all four of my children to all
kinds of different places. I felt like I had a hundred other
things that I should have been doing, and I realized that
I despised the thankless job of taxi-driver. As I sat there
scowling and driving, I realized that I needed help.

In a still agitated voice I shouted to the kids, "What is
great about car time?"

All four glanced at eachother, looked confused and asked

"What?"

"What is great about car time?" I asked, a little nicer.
"I know I need a new attitude and I'm feeling stuck."

Soon, they came up with some benefits:

"We get where we need to go."

"We get to listen to new music on the radio."

"We get to tell you about our day."

"We get to be together."

"We get to have our gratitude parties."

And on they went.

Somehow, after each idea, I felt better.

It was true. We so rarely got to be together at home
to talk and sing, and laugh. What a great opportunity
we had in the car. Why did I possibly hate it so much?

From that moment on, I have loved "car time." I've loved it
on long road trips when we were stuck in traffic, and I've
loved it when we were just coming straight home after school.

I find treasure in having all four of my kids in such close
proximity to me. When their dad is around, it's even
better.

I've learned to love a task that I once hated.

Since then, I've helped myself attach pleasure to all sorts
of unpleasant tasks, and the result has been what we're
all after anyway - greater peace, joy, and more profit.

What is it that you need to do? What is keeping you
from doing it with a smile?

I once had a staff member who made his living as a
tele-marketer. He totally hated it, until he used
his acting skills and started making his calls with
different foreign accents. He started setting records
at his company because he was having so much fun.

At that point, he got promoted to something he
truly enjoyed.

What is one success-habit that you dread, but which
could make you much more successful? Only
you know the answer to that.

Whatever it is, here are three empowering questions
regarding that task:

1. Why is this task important?
2. What is great about this task?
3. How can I do it in a way that is enjoyable?

Take a few minutes to answer those questions. We would
love to hear what you come up with.

Nothing is impossible. You can think, act, and feel
like successful people do, and achieve the same
results.

You're already successful.

Now, play to win.

How to REMEMBER Your Perfect Future

How to REMEMBER Your Perfect Future

"NOW faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of
things not seen. " Hebrews 11:1

Almost a hundred years ago, magnificent mind boggling discoveries began
to be made in the field of quantum physics and quantum mechanics.
These laws seemed to defy regular physics.

Eventually it was discovered that all matter is part of a sea of connected atoms
and subatomic particles. What's more, these particles are simply frequencies
of energy spinning in "states of possibilities" Time does not even exist in
this realm. Everything past and future is spinning in a place of right NOW.

I could go on, and give you a resource guide of 70 books to read on the subject,
but the important thing is this:

This sub-atomic matter doesn't even exist in our dimension until we observe it.
That means we have to see the unseen before it becomes visible to our natural
eyes. The more clearly we observe in our imagination, the faster it becomes "real."

That place where you see the desired outcome, and feel the gratitude for it, is
the place of faith. Right now, your faith is giving substance to things hoped for.

On the negative side, your fears are giving substance to things dreaded. They
can't coexist without cancelling each other out. The frequencies of fear and faith
are opposite and equal.

You hear this physics when you slip on a pair of noise-cancelling headphones in
an airport. The headphones create equal and opposite frequencies to counter act
the airport noise that you hear. The result feels like silence to you, but all the energy
of those sounds is still around you. Your observation just changed.

Wow. I am trying to say this as simply as possible.

The point is: Your God-ordained future is yours to co-create, while your past is subject to new
interpretation.

No, you can't change the past, but you can change the meaning you give to
past events. You can change the power past memories have on your present
state, and on your future.

You can come into agreement with the "High and Lofty One who dwells in eternity"
and find out the plans he has for you. His plans are to prosper you and not to harm
you, to give you a future and a hope.

How do you do this and step into this Divine prosperity?

Here are the steps that have caused me and Paul to personally experience at least
20 miracles over the past 20 years.

1. Turn off all the noise and static.
Stop letting things into your eyes and ears that feed fear and confusion.
This seems obvious, but I'm amazed at how many people will fill their mind
with stuff that has nothing to do with where they want to go.

2. Find a promise and cling to it
I know this works for people who don't believe the Bible, but frankly, I don't
love or trust any other source. It was Jesus who said, "Whatever you desire
when you pray, believe that you have already received it and you shall have it."
Once I have a promise about something, I say it all the time, sing about it,
and write it on my mirror as already done.

3. Get clear on what you desire!
Remarkably most people don't get what they want, simply because they
don't really KNOW what they want. Get over the fears of your own desires.
If we all got what our hearts truly wanted, we would all get different and
correct stuff.
I'm not talking just about material things. However, it is fun to practice
using your faith on tangible stuff, because it's just so - TANGIBLE!

3. Be thankful BEFORE the answer arrives
Once you've asked for what you want, stay thankful. If doubts arise spend
more time practicing how you would feel if it were a "done deal."
Remember - Faith rejoices, gives thanks and is glad. Fear despairs,
complains and is sad. Stay in faith. Stay in gratitude.

4. Practice, practice, practice!
Practice acting like your ideal future is hear now. Practice
BEING the person who lives the ideal life. Practice having desires,
seeing mental images, and speaking words that are all in harmony
with each other.

5. Walk in love and forgiveness
Finally, it is important to stay completely free from resentment,
jealousy and strife. Remember, you can't change the past, but
you can change the meaning you give to past events. (or present
events!)
Forgive yourself and others for their shortcomings. Just about
everyone is doing the best they know how with the tools they have.
Receive God's love because His love NEVER fails, or disappoints.

As you do these steps, you will realize that your perfect future
has already been completed so there's nothing for you to struggle
over. You can get to the place where you simply...

REMEMBER!

Until next time, let me know how these steps work for you. You
can spend a lifetime practicing them. Some things will drop in
your heart more easily than others.

I'LL FEEL LIKE AN IDIOT!

I'll FEEL LIKE AN IDIOT!

Jordan clutched his latest fundraising tickets in his hand as I watched the veins
popping out of his neck in utter frustration.

As part of the High School Varsity baseball team, he was expected to engage in
direct door to door selling to raise money for the program. I tried to teach him how
to leverage his efforts by selling where many sports fans would already be congregating.

Unfortunately, he would have nothing of it.

Finally the youthful athlete blurted out, "I'll feel like an idiot!"

Silence.

I'll feel like an idiot.

Have you ever avoided a critical task because you hated "feeling like an idiot?"

Of course you have. We all have.

The fact is, at any given time, you are doing what you are doing for one
of two reasons:

1. To avoid pain- as in feeling stupid
2. To gain pleasure - as in feeling great

I don't want any of my readers feeling like an idiot at any time, unless
of course they have the good sense to laugh at themselves and can
keep going painlessly.

Last week we talked about being heard in a noisy marketplace.

Some people don't truly want to be heard, because they are afraid
of rejection.

Let's see how to clear that up right now. Take a deep breath and
practice the following steps:

1. Acknowledge your distressing emotion

Even though certain emotions don't feel good, they are a part
of your psyche. They usually just display your learned response
to stress. At any rate, your subconscious mind is simply doing
its best to protect you, so let it know you're aware of the emotion.

2. Offer acceptance or forgiveness

It's easy to feel bad towards yourself or someone else when your
emotions are firing off into fear, anger or dread. This is the moment
to accept yourself in spite of the emotion, and offer forgiveness to
whatever has triggered your distress.

3. Create an empowering choice

You can't control what happens to you, but you can ultimately choose
how you will respond to it. Now that you've acknowledged your
physical state and offered acceptance anyway, you can choose the
response of your choice.

All together - put your hands on your heart and rub or tap there as
you make a power set up.

"Even though I hate feeling like an idiot, I totally accept myself
anyway, and I choose to be calm and confident."

Try to get as specific as possible behind the emotion as you repeat:

"Even though I hate feeling like an idiot, because I care what people
think about me, I totally accept myself anyway, and I forgive people
for judging me. Now I choose to be calm and confident."

Great.

Now if you want to take that further, we have a tapping technique
that is the hottest thing right now in the realm of peak performance.
You can learn about it in my book, Flow on Demand - the Athlete's
Edge.

The important thing is to get clear on those emotions and choose
love and peace anyway. Ultimately, you will reprogram yourself
so that the formerly stressful trigger now puts you in a state of
peace and confidence.

I help clients every week turn their mental blocks into breakthroughs.

It is my passion.

Until next time, keep playing hard...

And enjoy your game.

In your corner,

Gina

How To Be Heard in a Noisy Marketplace

How to Be Heard in a Noisy Marketplace

One time I was in Japan at a popular tourist destination. I was with a few friends from the states, but other than that, the people around us were foreign to us. The foreigners were talking with each other so it was not a quiet place. Still, their words were meaningless to me.

Soon among the voices I heard a stranger call out to his friend in perfect English,

"Hey Tom, check this out."

The words were nothing spectacular. They were not even louder than anyone around them. But they were in my language. I instantly spun around to see who was talking. What were they "checking out?"

I smiled to see two American GI's, intrigued by a memorial. From across the crowd, they smiled back at me. We felt like friends.

In today's market place those who need to hear your message are bombarded by thousands of other messages all day long. How can you be heard among that marketing noise?

Here are a few tips:

Speak their own language

Show that you understand the pains and problems that your prospect needs to solve. Avoid technical jargon unless your prospect loves that secret "code language."

Focus on benefits, not features

Your number one job is to answer their unspoken question: "What's in it for me?" If possible arouse curiosity.

Say it with a smile

I once read that an average looking woman with a genuine smile is considered much more attractive to men than a stunning woman without one. That may be good news for you singles out there, but it's even more important for you service providers out there. Be genuine. Smile. Be attractive.

In the end, your prospects in the marketplace will do business with those they know, like, and trust. If you want to be heard you must put their need for your help above your own need for approval.

Afraid of rejection? I'll talk about that next week.

Until then, keep playing hard, keep smiling, and enjoy your game.

In Your Corner,

Gina

Remember Who You Are!

Remember Who You Are!

When our son Jordan was little he used to watch Disney's The Lion King almost every day on his little TV. It is perhaps my all time favorite animated movie.

My favorite part of that movie is when young Simba is living on his own, still overcome with guilt and shame over the death of his father. Then he is confronted with his past and his identity. In some flurry of emotional leading he senses that his father is actually alive and he frantically runs to the water to see him for himself. Instead he's met with his own disappointing reflection. Then the reflection turns into his father who speaks to him, "Simba, remember who you are!" It is then that Simba steps into his destiny and returns to his land to lead his tribe back to freedom.

Today, I wish you would look into the mirror, and hear the Father's voice say, "Remember who you are - you are Mine." Right now there is so much noise in the world around us that fear is knocking on everyone's door. We're stuck asking "How? When?" While the question truly is "Who?" Who are you and whom are you called to serve? It's hard to answer those questions when all you can look to is your own weak past.

Instead make a decision that: 1. Your future will not be dictated by your past 2. Your identity will not be dictated by your failures You are created in the image of God, to rule and to reign in love.

Your power comes when you know that: 1. Your future (and your present) are created by your choices 2. Your identity is about who you truly are, and whose. Find out how God sees you.

You were never meant to struggle forever. You are given challenges to practice over-coming! Enjoy the challenge. Learn to look differently at yourself. You are a problem-solver. The bigger the problems, the bigger the profit. (if profit matters to you.)

Remember who you are!

Assignment: Write your own bio that you would want to accompany your name on some kind of award or product of yours. That's who you are. Until next time I'll be right here -

In Your Corner,
Gina

The NEED FOR SPEED

This week I must say that finally, yes FINALLY, I am feeling SO REFRESHED!

In fact, I've had the Top Gun Theme song playing in my head all day,
"Highway to the Danger Zone."

You see, I came upon this quote:

"In real life, it is the hare who wins. Every time. Look around you. And in any case, it is my contention that Aesop was writing for the tortoise market (giving people the fable they wanted to believe in) - after all, hares have no time to read such things. They are busy winning the race."

Anita Brookner
British historian
and novelist

Anita Brookner, whoever you are, THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS!

You see...

I am a hare.Perhaps you are one too.

You know Aesop's hare - the rabbit - she jackrabbits

out the starting gate, and then loses the race to M i s t e r S l o w - a n d
s t e a d y- t o r t o i s e.

And all my life, I have been laughed at for my absolute
compulsion to "GO AFTER" stuff. I didn't usually mind because
I was busy accomplishing lots of my goals.

Then I "grew up" and learned that "life is a marathon, not a sprint..."

and by golly someone insisted that

"slow and steady wins the race."

Huh?

Eventually my circle of "go-getter" friends went their ways
(mostly straight to the top)
and I went mine (into full time ministry)- where sometimes I could play
by my fast rules, and sometimes, I just played with the slow and small
team.

For the record, I want to that say SPEED IS GOOD!

Look at all the most successful people you know. They harness the
power of speed. They GET 'ER DONE!

What is it you want to accomplish in the next six months? What about
the next year? Do you want to double your income? If so, then make
up your mind AND DO IT!

Do you want to triple your income? IF SO, LET ME BE THE FIRST
TO SAY, "YES, YOU CAN!" My own 2008 income will be at least
double what '07 was. And I'm certain I'll double it again in '09.

I am weary of slow people putting their excuses on GOOD HARES!

Take off the limits. Remove the delay between great ideas and bold action,
and you will get succeed. Or, quit dreaming about one day acting on that
dream of yours and act like it is yours now. Cut the excuses and take some action.

I am looking for some people who are tired of spinning their wheels and are
ready to END THE EXCUSES, and TAKE BOLD ACTION!

You can be, do and have all the things that you were created for. You
were made for dominion, not for the bottom of the barrel.

Be bold. Be fast. Get it done.

Just DO IT ALREADY!!

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines, Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. - Mark Twain

Last week I talked about cliff jumping with my kids and discovering that fear can turn into fun.

Today I want to help you find your breakthrough by encouraging you to take ACTION on something that you have been putting off.

If the fear of moving forward has you blocked into an unfulfilling corner, than think for a moment. (but just for a moment.) Think about the future. If you take no different action and you look back at yourself even one year or five years from now, will you be happy with no change? Will you have regrets?

As Mark Twain said,

"You will be more disapointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did."

Most people will stay in a place they hate, rather than risk the unknown. This is an IMPOSSIBLE way to unleash your full potential!

You were created for dominion. You were never meant to live "under the circumstances."
You have untold ability to make the world a better place. You have a creator who gives you the power to get wealth. He says he will bless the work of your hands - but you must put those hands to work with passion.

Now that you have thought about the pain of regret, please decide one action that you can take TODAY that will move you out of your comfort zone and closer to a worthy goal. Get information, build a relationship, shop for your investment, make a phone call, put your shoulders back, put your chin up and speak with confidence.

You can't control the outcome, but you can trust in diligent, consistent action. If you don't quit, you won't fail.

More importantly, you won't sit in regret.

What do you really want to do, be and have? Then get up, and GET GOING! You don't have to do it perfectly, just make a plan and start moving.

I'll be right here, cheering you on!

Turning Fear into Fun

"What are you afraid of?"

Yesterday I took my four kids cliff jumping at a nearby waterfall. As we made our way down the trail, I was muttering to my daughter about what kind of rednecks we've become that we now play in "swimmin' holes." That is, until we actually descended to the river. The beauty was breathtaking. I was suddenly all smiles, and the little guys were all squeals of delight.

The three younger ones immediately followed their sixteen year old brother across the top of the waterfall and up a steep embankment on the other side. When he pointed to the most conservative jump, about twenty feet up, they each with total trust, stepped right up and leapt fearlessly into the water. They looked like little dolls. Gasps of surprise came up from all the local teenagers that were standing around me. The next few hours were filled with higher and higher, jumps, and dives and flips, with and without a rope swing.

Not every jump was painless, but each held its own triumph.

Later, when we were all home, sitting around, I commented to the twins on how gutsy they were out there. Little Matthew responded with surprising words of wisdom,

"Uh, excuse me Mom, but I was terrified."

"You're kidding. You sure didn't look like it!"

"Right. That's because I quickly found out that sheer terror can turn into sheer delight when you
just go for it!"

"Just Go For It."

How many times do we hold back in life because we are so afraid of all the things that can go wrong? (Yes, Mom, I'm aware of all those things.)

I talk to people every day who fail to live their dreams because they refuse to face the fear and just "go for it." They miss the sheer delight that awaits them on the other side of the leap.

On the other hand, I also talk to people every day who are taking off the limits of what is possible. They are aware that every reward comes wrapped up in risk. Their love for life overcomes their fear of failure.

Today I encourage you to re-consider your latent dreams. If you can find a way to answer yes to the following questions than you will be empowered to jump, to escape the mundane and find the sheer joy. The questions are:

1. Can I do it?
2. Will it be worth it?

Can you do it? Of course you can. The fact that you want to means that you have the ability on some level! Find someone who is doing what you want to do, and model them.

Will it be worth it? Only you can answer that. You might want to ask yourself, if you keep doing what you are currently doing, in just one more year - how will you feel? If the answer is something along the lines of "Sick!" then you know it's worth it to make a change. Leap!

A word of caution: The successful leap comes with an all out, full hearted effort. The one who jumps half-way finds greatest potential for injury. So create some momentum for yourself.

Can you really turn fear into fun? Absolutely!

Want to Feel Better Fast? - Stop Critisizing!

Wouldn't it be great to feel good all the time...

Why do advertisers spend billions of dollars to make you want to buy things?
Because it puts money in their pockets. Duh!

What is the one thing they are promising you every single time?

A FEELING! That's it. A FEELING!

If they can convince you that you will feel -
-sexy
-powerful
-safe
-relieved
-loved
-happy
-peaceful

...then they know they can get you to buy. What a feeling!!

Think back to your last 10 DISCRETIONARY purchases.

Did they make you feel good, at least for a moment?

Now...here's today's tip:

Don't wait to feel good! You can feel good, loved, peaceful,
happy NOW. It's a decision. It marks a state of faith, and
absolute miracles happen in that positive state.

Now, here's a little known secret to staying in that place:

STOP CRITICIZING EVERYTHING AROUND YOU!

When you start noticing something that is wrong with someone
or something around you, and then you speak those negative
words, you find your positive energy going down the drain.

This removes you from the place of abundance and of miracles.
You put yourself in the path of lack. You could be surrounded by
beauty and not even see it.

ESPECIALLY STOP CRITICIZING YOURSELF!

People who criticize themselves can't help but criticize the people
and things around them. Then they steal not only their own joy,
but the joy and abundance of the people around them.

Instead, offer acceptance and empowerment.
"It is what it is, so I will be part of the solution."

Or, just change your focus all together and look for something
that makes you smile.

Your feelings may not change right away, but here is a secret that
all Peak Performers know -

It is much easier to ACT yourself into a place of feeling, than it is
to FEEL yourself into a place of acting.

So, right now, think about that thing or that person who sometimes
grates on you, and speak encouraging words.

When you notice what is wrong with your coworker, your spouse,
your kids, then immediately change your focus! Act, like you would
if they were as you wished.

You will be amazed that you not only feel better right away, but
good things happen to you as a result. You might not get everything
you want, but you will want most everything you get; and that
is nearly as powerful.

Yes, this tip is a stretch, but my passion is seeing you enjoy your
life! Please...don't wait to feel good. The breakthroughs are on their
way.

Gina

PS - Have you received your free gifts from my website yet?
If not, then head over to http://www.BuiltToWinCoaching.com
and get going!

How to Get What You Want - Be Thankful

So, we are continuing our series on how to get what you really want.

There is nothing I love more than seeing supernatural success take over our mediocre circumstances. This is the place where you can't help but smile, and shake your head at the goodness of God.

What is the single biggest key to laying hold of the supernatural success? Well, after clearly seeing it with your imagination, the secret is to jump for joy with gratitude - before you see it with your physical eyes. Be grateful for the promise, and do not doubt.

Several years ago, Paul had a great job with a beautiful broadband company in Spokane, Wa.
At that time I heard a specific word from God in my spirit. "A famine is coming to this land, but don't worry. I will take care of you. Do not go get a job when it happens."

Oh boy. I was so excited to see what this meant. At the time I was staying home with our four little kids, and the finances, were a little tight, so I was sure it meant that Paul would get a promotion.

Instead, he got laid off. (this was shortly after 9/11 - Thanksgiving time.) Woo hoo! We both had faith, that promotion would come quickly.

The first month went by, what a time of amazing refreshing. But no new job. How strange. But we were thankful for what was coming!

The second month - same thing. Thank you! How strange that I was not to go work.

The third month - now, this seemed like an unfair vacation.

The fourth month - where in the world was the money coming from - we didn't know, but we hadn't lacked - not even through Christmas. Thank you!

The fifth month - we kept giving, and kept seeing supernatural provision. We were thankful.

The sixth month - this was amazing - having Paul home to help with the toddlers was a dream come true to me!

The seventh month - it began to feel like our 'vacation' was winding down. The anticipation was still building.

The eighth month - we kept rejoicing in the job to come, in the salary that would be at least a 20% raise, and finally...

Paul was hired by the company in Spokane that still employs him down here in Tennessee.
We were thankful!

Now, neither of us would have dreamed that we would have gone 8 months without a paycheck. The media was abuzz with the fact that there were no "family wage jobs," in Spokane." This made us all the more excited to see a miracle.

The idea that God would fail us was absolutely unthinkable. We had such a special grace for this time.

If it makes you feel any better, the day before Paul's new employer called, he did feel a crack in his faith! He slammed his Bible shut and hollered "It's not working. It shouldn't take this long!" Still I was able to stay strong for him, as he would for me in the next test we faced.

lesson - find someone to stand with you!

In the end, we enjoyed eight months together during a very special time in our children's lives. We never failed to give away ten percent of our little income, never paid a bill late, never went without a good meal, and we did not incur any debt. Paul's new job brought the 20% increase we were expecting. (yes, now we believe bigger.)

Several months later when we did our taxes, we looked at the numbers and I shook like a leaf. It was then that I felt a sickening wash of fear.

"Oh my gosh," I gasped "We were poor!"

By then, it was funny.

Now I know that money is just energy. It is spiritual. It comes in response to faith and gratitude, as does every good thing.

Today, our annual income is several times more than our "poor" year, but looking back, that may have been one of our richest seasons ever.

What is it you are believing for? Do you have a promise for it at all? If so, rejoice in the promise, forget about the problem, and you will see miracles.

Assignment:
Finish this sentence as specifically as possible, and then look at it constantly:

"I am SO happy and thankful now for..."

Put all the wonderful things you enjoy - past, present and future - and declare them all in present tense.

When it puts the smile on your face - you know you are in the right place to receive.

Until next time,

Gina

Phil 4:6 (New Life Version)
6 Do not worry. Learn to pray about everything. Give thanks to God as you ask Him for what you need.